We’ve all heard the advice, “Just be yourself.” But what do those three little words really mean? While I do believe this statement holds a good sentiment, it lacks depth.

I recently read Kat Timpf’s book, I Used to Like You Until…, where she says: “self-expression is the key not only to personal happiness but also to connection with those around us.”

That quote resonated with me more than “just be yourself” ever has. Being yourself isn’t something that you just do. It’s who you are, the way you live, what you believe, and how you express yourself.

I agree with Kat: living authentically is key to personal happiness! And, it’s absolutely vital to express yourself in a way that’s true to you. The most meaningful connections come from you showing up as you.

So, how do you show up in a way that’s true to you? Here are a few pieces of advice I’ve found helpful:

Think for yourself. Forget the noise, and think critically to form your own opinions/ideas. This applies to many things, big and small.

Here’s a basic example: When I’m planning content, I think to myself – am I creating based on a trend, or am I creating based on my unique perspective?

Guess what? Creating from my unique perspective always starts more conversation and allows for more connection than simply following the crowd.

Understand what’s none of your business. Others’ non-constructive opinions are not worth your time. It may sound harsh to say, “it’s none of your business,” but it is a good way to separate yourself from unnecessary stress.

Get the piercing or tattoo (or whatever you want). Everyone can make choices for their own appearances that enhance confidence. For example, I consider my Monroe piercing to be a signature element of my personal style. But, obviously, who you are is deeper than how you look. Your style is simply an additional layer to your self-expression.

In summary: Don’t just be yourself. Know who you are and act accordingly.

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve received? I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments or on Instagram. Let’s chat!